Notice the signs
How might it show up?
Becomes increasingly noticeable as children develop stronger social relationships and begin comparing themselves with others.
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A little parent guide
Jealousy
An uncomfortable feeling that can happen when we worry that someone else has something we want, or that we may be losing someone's attention, love, or place.
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What should I know about jealousy?
Jealousy is a normal part of childhood. Children may show it through changes in behaviour, words, body language, or by becoming quieter or more active. A helpful first step is to notice what is happening, name the feeling without judgement, and stay curious about what happened before trying to solve it.
Start with the basics
What is jealousy?
An uncomfortable feeling that can happen when we worry that someone else has something we want, or that we may be losing someone's attention, love, or place.
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What can a parent do?
Help children name the feeling without making them feel bad for having it — "It looks like you wished you had what they have" can open a conversation about the feeling underneath.
Try this conversation
A simple way to start
You do not need the perfect words. Try: "I noticed something changed. Do you want to tell me what happened?" If your child does not want to talk, staying available can be enough for now.
When to pause and get more support
You know your child best
If a feeling is unusually intense, persistent, interfering with everyday life, or connected with a safety concern, it is reasonable to talk with a qualified child-health or mental-health professional. You do not have to work it out alone.
A normal part of growing
Is jealousy normal in childhood?
Common in childhood, especially around friendships, siblings, attention, possessions, and comparison.
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Stories and play
Feelings can be easier to understand when children meet them in stories, play, and everyday conversations.
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What does jealousy look like in children?
Becomes increasingly noticeable as children develop stronger social relationships and begin comparing themselves with others.
How can I help my child with jealousy?
Help children name the feeling without making them feel bad for having it — "It looks like you wished you had what they have" can open a conversation about the feeling underneath.
Is jealousy normal for children?
Common in childhood, especially around friendships, siblings, attention, possessions, and comparison.
What should I say when my child feels jealousy?
Start by describing what you notice without judging it. For example: "It looks like you're feeling jealousy." Then give your child a little space to respond and ask what happened or what they need.