Notice the signs
How might it show up?
Becomes increasingly noticeable as children become more socially aware and encounter new people and environments.
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A little parent guide
Shy
A hesitant or uncomfortable feeling that can happen when we are around unfamiliar people, places, or situations.
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Quick answer
What should I know about shy?
Shy is a normal part of childhood. Children may show it through changes in behaviour, words, body language, or by becoming quieter or more active. A helpful first step is to notice what is happening, name the feeling without judgement, and stay curious about what happened before trying to solve it.
Start with the basics
What is shy?
A hesitant or uncomfortable feeling that can happen when we are around unfamiliar people, places, or situations.
A thought for parents
What can a parent do?
Avoid forcing a child to perform socially. Give them time to observe and join in when they feel ready.
Try this conversation
A simple way to start
You do not need the perfect words. Try: "I noticed something changed. Do you want to tell me what happened?" If your child does not want to talk, staying available can be enough for now.
When to pause and get more support
You know your child best
If a feeling is unusually intense, persistent, interfering with everyday life, or connected with a safety concern, it is reasonable to talk with a qualified child-health or mental-health professional. You do not have to work it out alone.
A normal part of growing
Is shy normal in childhood?
Common, especially in unfamiliar social situations.
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Stories and play
Feelings can be easier to understand when children meet them in stories, play, and everyday conversations.
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Common questions
What does shy look like in children?
Becomes increasingly noticeable as children become more socially aware and encounter new people and environments.
How can I help my child with shy?
Avoid forcing a child to perform socially. Give them time to observe and join in when they feel ready.
Is shy normal for children?
Common, especially in unfamiliar social situations.
What should I say when my child feels shy?
Start by describing what you notice without judging it. For example: "It looks like you're feeling shy." Then give your child a little space to respond and ask what happened or what they need.